Dating and not having sex

ith the ever-expanding array of dating apps meaning a potential sexual partner is never more than a swipe away, you could be forgiven for thinking millennials are at it like rabbits.

We’ve been dubbed the hook-up generation, who apparently are only interested in casual sex. Popular culture likes to make out that young women in particular are more promiscuous than ever - if newspaper images are anything to go by, we all spend our Saturday nights scantily-clad, drunk and looking for a man to take us home.

Why commit to one guy when there might be a better one - someone smarter, more successful, better-dressed - just around the corner?Whilst this may come as a surprise, it’s not the first study to suggest millennials aren’t as interested in racking up notches on the bedpost as you might think: last year, research by found that less than seven percent of people in their 20s have sex two to five times per week and 49 percent of twentysomethings hadn’t had sex at all in the past year.The new study, which was co-authored by Dr Ryne Sherman, Assistant Professor of Social Psychology at Florida Atlantic University, and Prof Brooke Wells, of Widener University, suggests a number of explanations as to why we’re all keeping our knickers on: today's young people are well-educated about sexually transmitted infections, porn is never more than a few clicks away, we don’t need sex to entertain us thanks to the likes of Netflix and social media, and the majority of us still live with our parents (and no one wants to meet the parents ut I think something else is at play here: my generation don’t - and won’t - commit to one person, and, shocking as it may sound, there are plenty of us who don’t actually want to sleep around when there’s no emotional connection with our sexual partners.You can be friends with members of the opposite sex, but nothing more than that until you’re ready to marry somebody. They are putting all of their chips on God, even moreso than others who are waiting till marriage but still allowing themselves to date. It’s OK to date and be romantically interested in members of the opposite sex.People who choose this path are often extremely driven and deeply in touch with their faith. Example: The Christian rock band Barlow Girl is famous for embracing the “no dating” approach. And when you like somebody, it’s nice to be able to express that feeling with physical affection.

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